If you’re struggling in a relationship with a narcissistic person, use these narcissism quotes to validate your feelings, feel heard, and know that you’re not alone or in the wrong.
NOTE: Living with and/or being in a relationship with a narcissist can be draining on your mental health and wellbeing. If you need some positivity in your current situation, make sure to read through these mental health quotes to help with everything from grief to self-care to anxiety.
Quotes About Narcissism
“A narcissist can be your husband, wife, mother, father, sister, brother, boyfriend, girlfriend, neighbor, boss, church member, or anyone you come in contact with. There are endless possibilities of ‘who’ they can be. The important thing to remember is the actions, behaviors are all very similar.” – Tracy Malone
“You might as well bang your head into a brick wall if you expect the narcissist to be reasonable, empathetic or human in any way. If you sense or witness any of these traits, there is an ulterior motive. When the narcissist is being nice, it’s because they have something to gain.” – Tina Swithin
“Relationships with narcissists are held in place by hope of a ‘someday better,’ with little evidence to support it will ever arrive.” – Dr. Ramani Durvasula
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“The extreme sociopathic narcissist is the center of his own universe.” – Kasy Spears
“No game designer ever went wrong by overestimating the narcissism of their players.” – Will Wright
“No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood.” – Samuel Lopez de Victoria
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“I love narcissists-even more than they love themselves. You don’t have to buoy them up. They are their own razzle-dazzle show and you are the blessed, favored with a front-row seat.” – Patricia Marx
“The narcissist enjoys being looked at and not looking back.” – Mason Cooley
“When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose.” – Brené Brown
“Call it egotistical or narcissist, but I think that’s what we all look for in books – the right stories that help us make sense of the world that we, on a very personal level, live in every day.” – John Corey Whaley
“Every narcissist is a hero and a legend in his own mind. ― Oscar Auliq” – Ice
“I’m a recovering narcissist. I didn’t know I was a narcissist, actually. I thought narcissism meant you love yourself, and then someone told me there’s a flip side to it. So it’s actually drearier than self-love; it’s unrequited self-love.” – Emily Levine
“The ultimate obscenity is not caring, not doing something about what you feel, not feeling! Just drawing back and drawing in, becoming narcissistic.” – Rod Serling
“You can teach a narcissist to show up on time, but you can’t train them to listen once they get there.” – Dr. Ramani Durvasula
“A false image is, of course, a work of art, an idol. And a lie. A narcissist identifies with this image, not his true inner self. So, all he cares about is his image, not what kind of person he really is. Indeed, the latter has no real existence in his world.” – Kathleen Krajco
“Hate is the complement of fear and narcissists like being feared. It imbues them with an intoxicating sensation of omnipotence.” – Sam Vaknin
“Indeed, narcissists will steal credit from others when something good happens and blame others when things go badly.” – Constantine Sedikides
“Love doesn’t die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism.” – Frank Salvato
“I have always been suspicious of romantic love. It looks too much like a narcissism shared by two.” – Rita Mae Brown
“He was like the co*ck who thought the sun had risen to hear him crow.” – George Eliot
“Though they are quick to put others down, unhealthy narcissists view themselves in absolutely positive terms.” – Daniel Goleman
“It is not love that should be depicted as blind, but self-love.” – Voltaire
“Narcissists alone are blatant in their self-inflation and braggadocio—leavened with a necessary dose of self-deception.” – Daniel Goleman
“People, no matter the economic class, find ways to feed their narcissism.” – Lynne Tillman
“Blogs are nothing more than a personal meandering diary for public consumption – a narcissist’s dream. So you can imagine when bloggers take themselves – and their blogs – seriously, it’s super annoying.” – Carole Radziwill
“Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears.” – Sheree Griffin
“Seeking admiration is like a drug for narcissists. In the long run it becomes difficult because others won’t applaud them, so they always have to search for new acquaintances from whom they get the next fix.” – Mitja D. Back
“It is especially painful when narcissists suffer memory loss because they are losing parts of the person they love most.” – David Brooks
“Narcissists only want you to show the parts of your character that benefit them.” – Maggie Petraki
“Being a narcissist isn’t easy when the question is not of loving your own image, but of recreating the self through deliberate acts of alienation.” – Orlan
“Relationships with narcissists are held in place by the hope of a ‘someday better,’ with little evidence to support it will ever arrive.” – Ramani Durvasula
“With a narcissist, you cannot have a voice or an opinion; you must meet their demands and tolerate and accept their disrespect towards you because they say they love you.” – Ella Jayne West
“You’re human. You’ll screw up. Denying that is crazy. Forgiving yourself has all the benefits of self-esteem without making you a narcissist that’s out of touch with reality.” – David D. Burns
“A narcissist is someone who has a grandiose sense of self-importance, harbors obsessive fantasies of unbounded glory, feels rage or intense shame when criticized, expects special favors, and lacks empathy.” – Daniel Goleman
“Narcissists withhold affection to punish you. Withhold attention to get revenge. And withhold an emotional empathetic response to make you feel insecure.” – Alice Little
“A narcissist’s excessive self-importance is a mask to hide their low self-worth.” – Ed Russo
“Relationship with a narcissist in a nutshell: You will go from being the perfect love of their life, to nothing you do is ever good enough. You will give your everything and they will take it all and give you less and less in return. You will end up depleted, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and probably financially, and then get blamed for it.” – Bree Bonchay
“Narcissism has existed for a long time; social media is just a new outlet to express it. Anybody who is going to record themselves and put that on the Internet, hoping people will watch, there is a degree to which that exists, yeah. I don’t know if I would call myself a narcissist. I don’t necessarily identify with that label.” – Tyler Oakley
“For the most part people are not curious except about themselves.” – John Steinbeck
“Narcissism has more in common with self-hatred than with self-admiration.” – Christopher Lasch
“Children of narcissists learn that love is abuse. The narcissist teaches them that if someone displeases you, it is okay to harm them and call it love.” – M. Wakefield
“Narcissism is eye trouble, voluntary blindness, an agreement to keep up appearances (hence the importance of style” – Sam Keen
“Self love: Being content with the work-in-progress you are. Not seeking approval from others. Being yourself. Comparing yourself only to who you were in the past, not to others. Not thinking you are better than anyone else. Narcissism: None of the above.” – Zero Dean
“Withhold admiration from a narcissist and be disliked. Give it and be treated with indifference.” – Mason Cooley
“Whoever loves becomes humble. Those who love have, so to speak, pawned a part of their narcissism.” – Sigmund Freud
“There are athletes and celebrities that are out there and they Twitter and they constantly try to drum up press because they’re narcissists.” – Geoff Stults
“He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.” – Benjamin Franklin
“Nice people don’t necessarily fall in love with nice people.” – Jonathan Franzen
“As a result of their emotional shallowness, narcissists are essentially devoid of all empathy or compassion for other people. Lacking empathy, a narcissist is a very destructive and dangerous person to be around.” – Mateo Sol
“I’m totally a narcissist, so I was doing all this performance and having lots of weird ego time, and learning to set aside my love for the ego and find a deeper love for myself and through that seeing myself as one with all beings. And through loving myself, loving all people in the world, that was my cure for narcissism, the only cure.” – Larkin Grimm
“I like to think I’m not a narcissist, but truth be told, we all have those sides to our character.” – Lisa O’Hare
“Americans are experiencing an epidemic in narcissistic behavior in a culture that is intrinsically self-conscious and selfish, and citizens are encouraged to pursue happiness and instant gratification of their personal desires.” – Kilroy J. Oldster
“For me narcissism is not about money. For me, narcissism is something so romantic and something so human. Everybody is a narcissist. Some people admit it and some people don’t. As an artist, it’s important to be a narcissist. Look at Picasso, look at Warhol…. As an artist, you can get away with a lot of things that normal people cannot.” – Nir Hod
“Narcissists, however, are similar to a spider that has built a web for its prey to bring itself.” – Mwanandeke Kindembo
“A narcissist’s criticism is their autobiography.” – M. Wakefield
“My father was a textbook narcissist. If he didn’t like the narrative he’d start gaslighting you. He threatened the democracy of our family.” – Randy Rainbow
“Learning to spot narcissists and deal with their destructive behavior can save you the world of hurt that awaits anyone who mistakes the near enemy for a friend.” – Martha Beck
“Narcissus does not fall in love with his reflection because it is beautiful, but because it is his. If it were his beauty that enthralled him, he would be set free in a few years by its fading.” – W.H. Auden
“Maybe, the lesson we can all learn from the inner sadness of a narcissist is to see through our own fabrications, our own illusions so that we can be set free to be real once more.” – Shannon L. Alder
“When narcissists behave in an exhibitionistic manner, they are seeking the same sort of admiration as toddlers, and for the same reasons. They want attention. Some examples include inappropriate dress, talking too loudly, or gesturing in expansive and space-intruding ways.” – Mark Ettensohn
“Underneath the so-called narcissistic personality is definitely shame and the paralyzing fear of being ordinary.” – Brené Brown
“Narcissism falls along the axis of what psychologists call personality disorders…but by most measures, narcissism is one of the worst, if only because the narcissists themselves are so clueless.” – Jeffrey Kluger
“The narcissist becomes his own world and believes the whole world is him.” – Alexander Lowen
“The world is so rife with narcissists that none of them take enough notice of me.” – Eleanor Bron
“The narcissist devours people, consumes their output, and casts the empty, writhing shells aside.” – Sam Vaknin
“The main condition for the achievement of love is the overcoming of one’s narcissism.” – Erich Fromm
“It’s nearly impossible for individuals with narcissistic personality disorder to truly fall in love and build a trusting, equal partnership.” – Taylor Hench
“I’m definitely a narcissist, and TV is fabulous for narcissists.” – Paulina Porizkova
“The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up.” – Dr. Ramani Durvasula
“Daughters of narcissistic mothers absorb the message I am valued for what I do, rather than for who I am.” – Karyl McBride
“I think it’s very difficult, and it requires a tremendous amount of spiritual integrity and discipline, to not be a narcissist in a culture that encourages it every step of the way.” – Alan Ball
“I always call myself a recovering narcissist. I lived my life thinking everything was about me.” – Fantastic Negrito
“There is simply no winning with a narcissist. He will treat you so horribly that you will become withdrawn and depressed and then he will turn around and say, ‘You’re no fun anymore, you’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive.’” – Susan Williams
“But that’s the thing about narcissists. They can try to fool you, with all their heart, but in the end, they’re just fooling themselves.” – Ellie Fox
“Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look, how we perform, is truly important to other people.” – Andre Dubus
“Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault.” – M. Scott Peck
“What are narcissists looking for, after all? Just someone at their level that they can feel superior to.” – Luigina Sgarro
“Narcissistic abuse is not just that someone dumped you or who you had a little tiff with them. NA is psychological abuse and brainwashing using intermittent reward and punishment, coercive control and withholding normal empathetic, emotional reactions to lower your self esteem.” – Alice Little
“Beware of narcissistic people. They’ll tell everyone you’re crazy, only to cover up their trickery.” – Mitta Xinindlu
“A narcissist will never care about your feelings, your emotions and your needs and will try to manipulate and exploit you.” – Amy Johnson
“The fantasy world of Narcissists can have a seductive allure that promises to envelop you in its specialness. Their superficial charm can be enchanting, and they often appear complicated, colorful, and exciting as they draw you into their narcissistic web.” – Sandy Hotchkiss
“Narcissists install a mental filter in our heads a little bit at a time. . . . ‘Will he get upset if I do/say/think this? Will he approve/disapprove? Will he feel hurt by this?’ Until we can uninstall the narcissist-filter, our actions are controlled by narcissists to some degree.” – Sam Vaknin
“The narcissist would love nothing more than to know you are eating uncooked Top Ramen out of a dumpster for dinner tonight while wearing yesterday’s underwear.” – Tina Swithin
“A narcissist will almost always dismiss your plans and ideas.” – Amanda Hope
“In true, narcissistic fashion, when my father was diagnosed as a narcissist, he called us all up individually to tell us, and he did it with true pride.” – Neal Brennan
“Half of the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm. But the harm does not interest them.” – T. S. Eliot
“If you want to go from being adored to devalued in the blink of an eye, simply insult the narcissist.” – Tigress Luv
“Nobody can be kinder than the narcissist while you react to life in his own terms.” – Elizabeth Bowen
“For some, life may be a playground to undermine the brainwaves of others or simply a vainglorious game with an armory of theatrics, illustrating only bleak self-deception, haughty narcissism, and dim deficiency in empathy.” – Erik Pevernagie
“How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego.” – Amanda Torroni
“Narcissus weeps to find that his Image does not return his love.” – Mason Cooley
“You can make a deal with a narcissist, legalize it, and discover that he suddenly has changed his mind and will not honor his commitment. ― Linda Martinez” – Lewi
“There’s a reason narcissists don’t learn from mistakes and that’s because they never get past the first step which is admitting that they made one.” – Jeffrey Kluger
“I think narcissists are endlessly watchable. The way they view the world and the way they interact within the world. They have no concept of their behavior or how it might be affecting other people. So comedically, it’s a very fun type of character to play. They are bulls in a china shop, twenty-four seven.” – Michael Showalter
“A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” – Karla Grimes
“He’s satisfied with himself. If you have a soul you can’t be satisfied.” – Graham Greene
“If you tell a narcissist that someone is less than them in any way, they feel gratified; they feel very good about that.” – Indya Moore
“Narcissists are afflicted with a bottomless appetite. . .for recognition, attention, glory, rewards. And it’s a zero-sum thing. Every moment a narcissist spends listening to another party guest tell a story is a moment in which the stage has been surrendered.” – Jeffrey Kluger
“A narcissist wants you to adopt his version of himself.” – Hart Pomerantz
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